"Rewire your brain for marriage success in 90 days."
“You’re a follower of Jesus, a spouse, a parent, a hard worker, a dreamer. But that doesn't make you immune to strains & challenges in your marriage. Watch this video. You won’t regret it.”
Friends, we’ve got a silent crisis going on…
Kids…sleep deprivation (probably related to kids!)…work…money challenges…health issues…crazy busy schedules (also probably related to kids!)…fill in the blank!
All these things add up over the years. And it’s not easy on marriages.
Recent studies show that satisfaction in marriage is usually highest at the beginning, and goes downhill from there (especially after kids). According to the research, this generally holds true until the kids leave home & things slow down a bit:
After that, the typical marriage CAN get good again (IF you’re in the 50% that survives that long)…
But seriously…
Do you really want to cross your fingers and just hope you “become happily married again” AFTER the kids leave?
Wouldn’t you rather?
- Be happily married NOW
(i.e. you and your spouse are a powerful, connected team that actually LIKES each other, can RELY on each other, & is pursuing a compelling VISION together…) - AND give your KIDS the benefit of seeing a great marriage, modeled before their eyes?
(the ideal environment for their spiritual & emotional development!)
IF you’ve experienced the pain of broken promises, harsh words, or silently drifting apart (with the very person who is supposed to love you unconditionally)…
And if you’ve already tried date-night, marriage books, or counseling (and they didn’t “fix things”)…
Then you’ll “get” this next point:
Traditional Help is Failing Many Marriages
WHY IS IT that we have MORE marriage research, more articles, books, conferences, & free resources available than ever before in the history of the world - AND YET, SPOUSES ARE STILL SUFFERING at alarming rates?!
Problem #1: MORE Information does not equal more Transformation.
We live in world of INFORMATION OVERLOAD. We’re already crazy busy & stressed out. Marriage seminars and books often just add to the overload without helping you implement any real, lasting changes in your marriage.
Problem #2: Labeling problems is not the same as executing solutions.
Many marriage help solutions still spend too much time analyzing PAST relationship problems & labeling symptoms for insurance. It's hard to build POSITIVE MOMENTUM in a relationship looking BACKWARDS and focusing on problems.
Problem #3: One hour per week isn't an effective model!
We live in a busy world addicted to convenience & unable to focus. Traditional marriage counseling & therapy solutions cater to that, requiring minimal time commitment & effort. But if you shouldn't expect to get in great shape exercising once per week, should we really expect that talking about your marriage (problems) once per week will get significant results?! Building an optimal marriage requires making growth a higher priority throughout each week, for an extended period.
Problem #4: Reacting to marriage crises is not the same as DESIGNING your LIFE for an Optimal Marriage.
Today, we tend to treat marriage help like the Emergency Room, a place you avoid like the plague, until you’re about to bleed to death! But we should be treating marriage help more like a fitness program, where you build lasting health & happiness into your marriage over time. The reactive approach is always temporary. A skills based proactive approach creates sustainable results.
It’s time for a NEW APPROACH to MARRIAGE SUCCESS - One that:
- Does not put your faith in the back seat
- Is 100% focused on active transformation – personal & marital
- Combines the best of Christian Theology + The Psychology of Happiness + Integrated Life Coaching + Relationship Research into a tech-enabled growth process…
Mission:
The Optimal Marriage Project exists to pioneer & deliver the most effective online Christian marriage skills camps in the world.
Methodology:
We do this by merging the best of Christian Theology + Positive Psychology + Integrative Life Coaching Principles + Relationship Research with modern software to create a positive, intensive, and transformational growth experience.
Our 90 day online Marriage Bootcamps support spouses as they apply various faith-grounded & science-backed principles to their practical day-to-day lives in a way that renews & builds up the trust, understanding, & connection in their marriage. We start by changing beliefs, mindsets, and expectations, but quickly move to optimizing the habits, routines, & systems that are required for a successful & fulfilling marriage. Our programs are extremely practical and use modern technology to provide daily & weekly training, tools, assignments, reminders, and support for the growth process.